Legal Advice - [PA/NY] Adopted out biological child has severe special needs, adoptive parents pushing us to help. |
- [PA/NY] Adopted out biological child has severe special needs, adoptive parents pushing us to help.
- Can a judge make mandatory vaccinations a stipulation for getting custody of a child?
- My parents [50] are blackmailing me [23] to take out a $20,000 loan to give to them.
- Non-profit company denied letting me apply to rescue a dog because they assumed I was disabled. I am not. They then repeatedly insulted the disabled, mentally ill, and chronically ill communities, and then changed their policy and pet adoption requirements to specifically exclude the disabled.
- Got a call from the police that my NFamily is trying to track me down
- Husband is claiming twins arnt his and is trying to get out of child support.
- [CA] My wife was arrested for domestic violence, and also put on a 5150 involuntary psychiatric hold for her acute manic episode. Should I be working with the district attorney to get her charges dropped?
- [SC] Then property management office of the apartment style dorms I’m living in has thrown out everything in the refrigerators while we have been kicked off campus. This includes pots and tupperware. People have lost stuff from heirlooms to expensive Dutch ovens. Is this legal for them to do?
- Employer wants me to provide COVID-19 screening
- Leaving my family in the middle of the night
- Old company is using my photos on website, pretends I’m still there. Any recourse?
- Husband requested to pay child support for 11 year old he never knew existed.
- Suicide Prevention Lifeline Violated my confidentiality
- Tenant is using the unfinished basement for a bedroom (PA)
- Fedex driver explicitly not delivering
- Just moved into an apartment complex 3 weeks ago, now they're telling me they'll fine me if I dont' remove the (long) pre-existing weeds on the patio. Can they?
- (CA) Not me, MIL, Rented a room out to a woman and now the woman's ex boy friend won't leave their place.
- License Suspended due to non payment of speeding ticket - I sent payment but they have been closed due to quarantine. Is there anything I can do?
- I think my neighbor created a disabled parking spot themselves with a sign bought online and a can of blue spray paint. Is there anything I can do about this?
- I'm a consultant working for medical device company. Company is suddenly dissolving my position after I sent an email raising concerns about lack of PPE that is needed for us to continue to safely do our jobs. I am my team's most tenured consultant. Not part of any company-wide lay-offs.
- Ghosted by roommate 3 days after I moved in
- MA - family member sold house in a trust without permission of trustees
- Package delivered to work and my boss kept all delivered personal items and gave them to staff without my consent or knowledge, twice.- USA
- We just found out from a credit check that my partner (27) has $1800 due in collections in his name from a utility bill that his mom (54) used his name and SSN to open and default on.
| [PA/NY] Adopted out biological child has severe special needs, adoptive parents pushing us to help. Posted: 11 May 2020 06:47 AM PDT My now husband and I legally gave our first child up for adoption 10 years ago to some relatives. We now are married and have a child together. Our biological child has severe autism. He is nonverbal and cannot be toilet trained, among other things. The adoptive parents obviously know who we are because we are distant relatives. This was supposed to be a semi-open adoption, but we have only seen this child twice at family functions since his birth. Since December, they've started sending out messages and phone calls that make it clear that they believe this is somehow different than a normal adoption. They now want us to assume custody and care of our first child. The only written proof we have is a few texts saying that we need to "take responsibility" and that I "need to contribute more than I might have thought" because the child isn't normal. They've insinuated on calls that he may need to come live with us soon enough. We can't afford the care this child needs, and he was legally adopted by these people at birth. What is our obligation here? We've stopped responding at all out of fear of creating an agreement or expectation, and we don't have money to just donate anyway. [link] [comments] |
| Can a judge make mandatory vaccinations a stipulation for getting custody of a child? Posted: 11 May 2020 01:05 PM PDT My psychotic mother is trying to get custody of my 7 year old nephew. Although all 5 of her own children are vaccinated, and although she has been a nurse for over 25 years, she has jumped on the anti-vax bandwagon and says she won't be getting my nephew any vaccinations (such as dtap booster, flu shot, hep A). My other sister is also suing for custody, but if she fails, could it be requested the judge make vaccinating my nephew a requirement for our mother gaining custody? We are in Iowa, United States [link] [comments] |
| My parents [50] are blackmailing me [23] to take out a $20,000 loan to give to them. Posted: 11 May 2020 08:53 AM PDT Really new to Reddit. I've posted this before on Relationship Advice, but got referred here. My parents have 2 mortgages, one is theirs in a different city where they live with my multiple younger siblings (4, tweens and teenagers). The other mortgage is for my house, where my name and theirs is on the title. My parents bought me a car when I was in high school and paid it off years ago when I just started university. The vehicle is owned by them, but it is registered and insured under my name. I pay all insurance, maintenance fees and gas for the vehicle. I also pay for all of the expenses such as utility bills, mortgage, insurance, security, etc. associated with my house (owned by me and my parents). I live with and share expenses with my partner. We both recently graduated, and just got jobs a few months ago. We both have student loans. Unfortunately, I was temporarily laid off due to COVID-19. My partner works from home, but finances are obviously tight. My parents generally are bad with money. Despite being in the midst of a pandemic, they upgraded one of their cars and have bought new house furniture. They also have to pay $30,000 worth of home repairs. I have lent money to them in the past, and they have not paid me back (though these amounts were only hundreds to a thousand dollars, nowhere near as much as they were asking for now). They have asked me to lend them $5000 before to help pay the $30,000 for their home repairs, but I declined since at that time, I was still looking for a job. My parents randomly approached me and my partner and asked us to take out a $20,000 loan in my name. I asked why. They explained that they are refinancing their house, and need to show the lender they have an "unencumbered" $20,000. They said that the loan would be in my name, however they would be the ones paying it back, and there would be "no risk to me" since they would be able to pay off the loan by January 2021 by paying in monthly instalments. I immediately declined. I stated that I was not working, and did not feel comfortable taking out a loan. Not only this, but I stated that in my current position, I likely wouldn't be approved. My parents pointed me to the loaner that would allegedly lend me money despite my unemployment, "for my credit score alone". (my credit score is average, at best) I checked out the loaner's website, which boasted same-day loans up to $50,000. Interest rates were somewhere around the 30% range. I restated my refusal. My parents started to get angry. They continued to say that there was no risk to me, that they would be able to pay it off. They were furious that I doubted they would be able to pay the loan for me, and said "do you think we would screw over family?!" They have also said that I don't understand how mortgages work, and told me to "go take a Finance 1000 course and educate myself to change my poor perspective". They also told me to "go smoke weed and calm down" (they know I regularly use medicinal marijuana, it is legal where I live). I cited their other expenses and debts (there are even more than what I listed previously), and generally continued to say that due to the current state of the economy, it wasn't unreasonable for me to be cautious in trusting anyone to pay off a loan in my name. They continued to get angry and defensive, saying that I was disrespecting them for all they had done for me, and that this was the "ultimate betrayal". I said that I did not want to be accountable for paying back this loan, in the extremely likely event that they would not be able to pay for it. They decided to switch gears. They started saying that since they owned my vehicle, and that they needed me to pay them $20,000. (The vehicle is 7 years old... I don't know that it would even be worth this much) I rely on my vehicle for transportation (my job involves being able to travel to different locations outside of city limits). And obviously, I can't afford to buy a new one. They ignored my position, and proceeded to draft a contract which said I would agree to pay them $25,000 for the car (mysteriously larger than the initial amount they requested of me). Again, I refused to sign. I stated that I was paying all expenses associated with the vehicle, that it was a teenaged "gift" to me, and that I would be happy to buy it off of them once I was working again. Throughout the day, I also received several e-mails from loan-matching and credit checking websites that they had applied me to. I confronted them about this and they said "we thought you would cooperate with us". They are now threatening to kick me out of the house and take my car. I am legally on title for the mortgage, so I am fairly certain they can't throw me out. But I am still very afraid of my parents showing up at my house and wrecking havoc. Not only this, but they continue to harass my partner and I in attempt to guilt-trip us and "educate us" on how we are wrong, how we are disrespectful, and how they will seize my car and force us to find new accommodations. The craziest part - my younger sibling [22] who is working full-time already agreed to apply for a loan on the first day they asked me, and was in the process of getting approved the entire time they were harassing me (this has been going on for several days now). I have had to freeze my credit, change all my passwords, and now I am going to have to figure out how to buy my parents out of my mortgage. I told them that once I was working again and able to figure things out, I would buy my car from them and transfer titles on everything. My parents are STILL sending messages and e-mails to my partner and I, saying how terrible we are for "not trying to help them", and restating how much they have done for us. My parents went as far as to break down their "total investment in me", from times they've helped me pay rent in the past to groceries they've bought me. They keep trying to corner me into agreeing to "pay back their full investment in me". They've sent me messages saying "this will not be on your terms", and outlining a "payment agreement" for my car starting THIS MONTH, at around $450 dollars a month plus 5% interest, until I am able to "pay the rest in full" once my employment resumes. I am not sure if I am in the wrong here, and I do not know how to proceed. I don't even know what I am asking for in terms of advice, but any insight would be great. TLDR - Parents and I share title on my mortgage. I pay for all expenses associated with my house. Parents own my car, but it is licensed and registered in my name. I pay all expenses associated with my vehicle, and it was paid off several years ago. My parents are trying to use my house and my car to corner me into taking out a 20K loan in my name that they claim they will pay off for me. When I refused to do this, they are now trying to corner me into signing a contract to buy my car from them. I told them I'm not in a financial position to buy anything right now since I'm not working, but they won't stop harassing me to act immediately. We all are Canadian, but I am in a different province. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 04:56 AM PDT I live in Virginia, and on May 5th I messaged a non-profit herding dog rescue in my area showing interest in a particular dog. The rescue asked that people message them first before submitting an application. I did just that. They posted a list of requirements for the dog. Myself and my husband met every single requirement, and then some. We have two healthy and happy herding dogs already, and are very familiar with the needs of the breed. While waiting for a reply from the rescue, I commented on the rescues facebook post and spoke briefly to the foster mother of the dog. In my comment I mentioned that I have "health issues", which is part of the reason why I am home 24/7. Someone being home with the dog 24/7 was one of the requirements listed. My health issues in no way impede my ability to care for a dog and I had stated as such. Because of this one comment with the phrase "health issues", the rescue assumed that I was disabled and refused to allow me to even fill out an application specifically because of my assumed disability. They knew, and know, absolutely nothing about my health. They never even bothered to ask any questions about my health or situation before denying me the application. I never stated that I was disabled. Not once, not ever. Again, I am not disabled. They assumed that. I then posted a review of my experience on their facebook page. Stating facts only, and posting the screenshot of our one conversation, and the comment to the foster mother as proof. After their denial of allowing me to put in an application, they changed their requirements on the post of the dog specifically to exclude disabled people. I still met every single requirement, and was still not allowed to even fill out an application because of their incorrect assumption that I have a disability. I have denied having a disability at every turn. After the rescue changed the post to exclude the disabled, people started posting screenshots of the rescues policy that originally stated "As a matter of policy, (rescue) does not discriminate on the basis of race, color, gender, sexual orientation, age, religion, national or ethnic origin, or physical disability." They then went on to change their website policy specifically to exclude disabled people. Once the review I posted gained some views, people started calling them out for being discriminatory. The rescue then claimed that I, myself, was "bullying" them to try to get the dog and tried to discredit me and my review. One of their exact quotes was "this review is just a clear attempt to bully us into giving a dog to a family who does not meet the minimum requirements." Again, I met all listed requirements, they know absolutely nothing about me, my household, or my health, and I was refused even being allowed to apply. The owner of the rescue, as well as few of their current/former volunteer/employees resorted to personal attacks, calling me a liar, calling me names, and even going so far to insult me and say they denied me because of how I look. (My profile picture has a snapchat filter with black lipstick on it.) One person who at one point adopted from them, said they had "been on the admin side of the facebook page and saw the original transcript" and said that I was lying to try to get a rise out of people. They made claims "the real reason" I was denied is that "the dog was too high strung" for me, even though they know nothing about me or my health issues, and I was never even allowed to submit an application. She claimed to have screenshots that prove that I lied, but refused to post her supposed 'proof'. It still has not surfaced. It does not exist. They are still trying to discredit my review. The rescue then went on to start insulting commenters. One said, and I quote, "Disabilities are not always physical many of these people seem to have mental disabilities and we should pray for them not try and reason with them." Hundreds of people have commented and the rescue has been deleting every comment that criticizes their behavior, blocking anyone who says anything about the situation, and deleting and turning off reviews. Luckily I have screenshots of every single thing they have done and said. Timestamped, dated, all of it. This is no longer about me trying to rescue a dog. I understand that I am never going to get this dog. That is not the point anymore. The actions of this rescue towards the disabled, mentally ill, and chronically ill communities are deplorable, and they have shown no remorse. They have made no attempt to apologize for their statements, nor their treatment of the disabled, mentally ill, and chronically ill communities. At every turn, they have doubled down and made even more discriminatory remarks, and repeatedly changed their policies specifically to exclude said groups. I have been advised to report them to the ADA. Can I report them for this discrimination against disabled people even though I, myself, am not disabled? What additional measures can I take to ensure that this never happens again? Are there other agencies or groups I can report them to? Is there anything I should know about reporting and dealing with a non-profit compared to a regular company? I am willing to provide the screenshots if anyone needs more clarification or proof. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you all. [link] [comments] |
| Got a call from the police that my NFamily is trying to track me down Posted: 11 May 2020 05:44 AM PDT On Saturday night I got a call from my local police since apparantly my brother had called them, saying that he hasn't spoken to me in over a year and that he's worried about me. The operator had asked him why he waited a year then, to which he couldn't answer. I've been estranged from my entire family since August 2018. I live in a different city to them (an hour away). Here's the issue; When I was 17, I became homeless because my mother had tried to honour kill me since I was too 'western' (extremist Muslim family). She choked me and I barely got away with my life. I locked myself in the toilet and my brother body slammed the door until it broke off the frame. While I was in there I called the police, they never came and I remained in the toilet until the next day when I took my phone and charger and went to the station. This happened in 2014. I ended up not being able to find anywhere to stay because I was an EU citizen in the UK (England) and I had no rights, so I had to go back to living with my family. Or so I believed. I ended up asking to drop the case since I had no where to go and the family I was staying with told me I was wrong and I shouldn't do that to my mother and that I'll go to hell (also a Muslim family). I ended up moving back in with my crazy family but they never tried to kill me again. I'm 24 now, have been no contact since August 2018 and they're trying to find me again, probably to finish their unfinished business. I don't feel safe. The police don't seem to be taking this seriously. What can I do? I've been living in fear ever since I went no contact, I've avoided any Muslim communities/any Arabic speakers and pretend like I don't understand it when I hear it anywhere around me. I've been completely isolated from society ever since I went no contact. I don't trust anyone. I've been suffering with sever depression and anxiety, yet again I've not been offered any professional therapy, I had some talk therapy when I went to the GP. It didn't help much, they said I as better and the therapy stopped. I've been living with housemates this entire time, I've already moved twice but remained in the same city. My siblings are 39F, 38M and 34F. They all still live with my mother, none of them are married or have much of a career going since they're trapped by her (she won't allow it). I'm the only one that escaped. And now they're coming for me. I fear for my life. What can I do? Where do I go? I have no support network and yet again have been living in fear my entire life. They've been abusive my entire life. I just never known any better since I was a child. How do I protect myself from this? I have thought of changing my name as well as moving, I'm just worried about funds. I dropped out of uni because of their issues as well, also because of depression and anxiety. What can someone like me do in this situation? I'm completely alone and isolated. [link] [comments] |
| Husband is claiming twins arnt his and is trying to get out of child support. Posted: 11 May 2020 09:21 AM PDT I had my children three weeks ago and my husband is now asking for a divorce on the grounds that I cheated and that I didn't take care of the babies as one died inside me. I am a pale person and my husband is also, but one of the babies is olive toned due to getting my father's darker coloring. The third baby died in childbirth. I'm in WV in the USA so he was able to be there for the birth because I think that matters. My husband was forced to leave the hospital however, after we found out the second baby girl died. He was thrown out because he tried to shake me and slap me because he thought I had cheated as no one from his family would have a dead baby and a dark baby due to I dont even remember. I was drugged out. Fast forward three weeks and I'm living at my mother's taking care of my twins while mourning. My husband served me divorce papers two weeks ago and requested a paternity test. We did it and they are without a doubt his. He is still saying they arnt his but I dont care anymore. I just want to know the quickest way to get child support that will cover the cost of two babies until I can go back to work. Also could I request for him to let me back into my house so I can stop imposing on my elderly mother. If it helps, the house was bought by me before the marriage. He has changed the locks though so I am stuck at my mothet. And I dont want him to have custody until the babies are older due to his behavior these last few weeks. You might also want to know that I did not want children and he did but agreed not to have them to stay with md. The condom used to break a lot and before the birth he confessed he used to either break them or poke holes in them so id get pregnant. My mother thinks that illegal but I dont have that confession down somewhere because I forgave him for that breech of my trust the day before my water broke. I was orginally suppsoed to get a c section but I couldn't due to that. If this post doesn't make much sense just ignore it, I'm tired and was never good at writing. [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 07:06 PM PDT First some background. My wife is in the middle of an acute manic episode and has been in and out of the psychiatric inpatient facility several times the past 2 months. She has no previous criminal history. She recently got discharged from the psychiatric hospital since her condition improved significantly after taking medication. However, she stopped taking them almost immediately after discharge, and her condition got worse. I asked her politely if she wants to go see a doctor. She just looked at me, slapped me once (not hard), and started doing the same things that made me very concerned about her own safety. I called 911, and explained the situation to the police. Police put another 5150 hold, but they also arrested her for domestic violence, even if I profusely argued that I don't want this charge on her and I think it's unnecessary. My wife was transferred to jail and never contacted me or any one else while she was there. The district attorney called me before the arraignment hearing, and said she will recommend to the judge that the charges be dropped if she gets psychiatric treatment. She also recommended a peaceful contact order between me and my wife and I agreed. At the arraignment hearing, the defense attorney who was hired by my wife's aunts requested a no-contact order and that she gets released to her aunt's house. The judge agreed with the defense. The domestic violence charge has not been dropped yet. I'm sure the no contact order was the Aunt's idea, not my wife, because they believe I'm the cause of her disease (which of course is nonsense). To be clear, I want my wife to be able to talk to me and I'm the "protected" individual in the order. I don't want to talk to the defense attorney since he has the interest of the Aunts who do not like me. The district attorney has been helpful, and is helping me downgrade the no-contact order to a peaceful-contact order. I have been giving updates to the district attorney regarding my wife, but I'm not sure if I should. Questions: 1) Should I hire a private attorney instead, and stop talking to the district attorney even though the DA has been helpful? The DA's job is to prosecute, and I don't want my wife to get any criminal records. 2) Was it illegal for the aunts to ask the defense attorney to request a no-contact order on behalf of my wife? I'm 100% sure my wife and the aunts did not exchange any information. What are my options here? I'm not asking about how to take care of my wife and how she can get psychiatric help. NAMI is a great organization and resource for those who are in a similar situation. Thanks in advance. [link] [comments] |
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| Employer wants me to provide COVID-19 screening Posted: 11 May 2020 05:43 AM PDT (KY) I'm a secretary in an office. I've been asked by my boss to perform COVID-19 temperature screenings on all employees as they enter the office, and to deny entry to any who have "unusual" temperatures. I have no medical training and have not been given any PPE to perform these tasks. I'm uncomfortable being responsible for medical screening with no training or protection besides a bottle of GermX. I was not given any written guidelines on how to conduct the screening, what is considered an unusual temp, or how to protect myself. Questions: What is my personal liability if I do these screenings and an employee infects the office? Do I have any legal recourse to refuse to do medical screening without training and PPE? [link] [comments] |
| Leaving my family in the middle of the night Posted: 11 May 2020 08:14 AM PDT So my issue here is, my family won't let me leave willingly. I'm 21 years old, they tell me that I have to stay to help pay this house off or never talk to them again. I cant stay here anymore, like it's ruining my life. So my plan is to leave in the middle of the night while they are all asleep. My question is, can they legally keep me here? Are they going to file a missing persons report and ill have to come back? Or can I just tell the police that I left. Can they sue me at all? Can they call the police and lie and say that I stole something to get back at me? I'm just trying to make sure that they can't legally fuck my life up because I decided to leave. this is located in Florida [link] [comments] |
| Old company is using my photos on website, pretends I’m still there. Any recourse? Posted: 11 May 2020 04:07 AM PDT So this might not be low key compared to other posts but I am just looking to get them to stop. More detail: I left my old company (15+ workers) over six months ago, while I tried to make the break go cleanly because during my time there (two years+) they had violated many consumer laws, labor laws and I also had to put up with their awful behavior (for example sexually harassing wait staff at restaurants when we took our monthly lunches, coming back to the office to find porn up on the computers etc.) so I tried to leave with as much grace as possible. The company is beginning to finally get what's been coming for them and customers are fighting back and the reputation is going down the toilet. One request I had (in writing) on leaving was that they remove my name and photos from the website. Now, the reason this is is because I was the ONLY woman working for them in a male dominated job sector, think electrician that kind of gig. I don't want to give many more details but let's say who I am and what I did makes having me on the page as a kind of "incentive" for customers... And my boss at the time said he was going to leave my picture up for publicity and "diversity", I then asked him to remove it and I know they keep using my name (faking emails with "signature") with customers who solely asked for me due to my area of expertise I had while working there. I've sent multiple emails asking for removal of the photos and "use of my likeness". Is there any recourse or would it be acceptable/possible to contact a local lawyer to get something drafted up to force them to remove the photos and not use my name? I haven't found much in the way of this kind of thing! Thanks in advance! Edited to add location: North Eastern US [link] [comments] |
| Husband requested to pay child support for 11 year old he never knew existed. Posted: 11 May 2020 10:09 AM PDT I don't know if there is actually any legal advice that can be given, but I'm at a loss right now. My husband (35 yo M) and myself (35 yo F) have been together for 8 years. Very recently we got a letter in the mail requesting he pay child support for an 11 year old girl from his hometown. Turns out the mother of this girl had also gotten on my messenger and contacted me. She thinks that she had a one night stand with my husband a dozen years ago and that he is the father. She apparently has tested a number of other men and their tests all returned negative so far. My husband does not remember this woman at all and her story makes no sense because the people he was remembered to be hanging out with that night are people he has never met. We don't believe that he is the father, but they are requesting child support before a paternity test can even be preformed. To be honest, we don't even want to take a paternity test because he has no interest in a relationship with this adolescent child he never knew existed, he does not believe that the child could be his and it feels very violating to us that a person can just point fingers and turn lives upside down. No matter what the truth is this is incredibly stressful. We would consider getting a lawyer or whatever it takes. If anyone has legal advice they could share with us we would appreciate it. I understand of course that sex is an adult decision with potential adult consequences. However, taking care of a child for 11 years without trying to contact the possible fathers just robbed that child and father of the majority of her childhood relationship. If it was magically my husband, knowing how his brain works he could never have a meaningful relationship to that kid at this point. That mother took that from her child and whoever the father is. It just feels wrong that she can wait a dozen years and then decide the time is right for her to paternity test every man she thinks she had sex with that year. I will ignore her until if/when she goes to a court. Even then, the whole thing is just horrifying. I appreciate all of the advice and people being generally pretty nice about this touchy situation. I will no longer be communicating with them at all and we are going to hire a lawyer today. Most likely this will be a paternity test and then disappear, but who knows. Again, I really appreciate all of you. It's so nice to have a community like this. [link] [comments] |
| Suicide Prevention Lifeline Violated my confidentiality Posted: 11 May 2020 12:40 PM PDT Throwaway for personal protection So about a week ago I used the Suicide Prevention Lifeline chat because I was having a really hard night and I wanted someone I didn't know to talk through these feelings. We talked about some stuff from my past that not even my mom knew about and the person I was chatting with pushed me to label these events (example: I had a guy friend make some inappropriate actions towards me and it messed with my self esteem and the person I was chatting with pushed me to label it as "almost raped") and when we ended the chat I told the lady I felt much better and I was going to call and start therapy soon. Then I found out that she called CPS on my family and told my mom the stuff that she pushed me to stay and that I was suicidal. The lifeline says that it is confidential and that first responders are only called if you appear to be in danger at the time of the chat. So my question is can they do this? And what should my next step be? This happened in Indiana [link] [comments] |
| Tenant is using the unfinished basement for a bedroom (PA) Posted: 11 May 2020 04:42 PM PDT We have a single family home we've rented to a nice couple with three sons. Found out recently that the eldest has turned the basement into his bedroom. It's not a finished basement and we're concerned about liability if something were to happen. When they came to do the final lease signing they mentioned that it looked like water was leaking into the basement, and we were like "yeah it's an unfinished basement in PA, it's not flooding but water does get in sometimes from the outside wall." They never told us they planned on having it be lived in. Should we give them a disclosure or something that it's not a livable space? [link] [comments] |
| Fedex driver explicitly not delivering Posted: 11 May 2020 10:20 AM PDT About 8 months ago a Fedex driver drove recklessly through our (private) driveway which connects two roads. I mean recklessly because it's unpaved, ~30ft from our home, and children play outside. He was going about 30MPH, and I wouldn't go anything over 5-10MPH just out of fear of damaging my own vehicle. After we asked the driver to stop, and not use the private driveway as a connecting road, he has created significant headache in getting packages delivered. Every. Single. Package. is claimed as an attempted delivery. For a while I figured it was miscommunication, but since the quarantine I have been stuck at home and know for a fact that no delivery attempt was made. I have tried to speak with customer support to no avail. What recourse do I really have? As a side - we put a gate to stop unwanted traffic in our private driveway, so that problem has been solved. No more opportunity to hit a child or a dog! But the problem of delivery remains. Edit for bot - Forgot location (MD) [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 08:29 PM PDT As the title mentions, we've only been at this residence for about three weeks. In that time, there have been a lot of incidences indicating ongoing disorganization on the part of the management. E.g. being woken up by repairmen who had the wrong unit or being issued a written notice for what turned out to be an "offense" meant for my neighbor. During the most recent incident regarding the incorrectly issued citation, I was asked to send a photo of my patio (the area in question) to prove I hadn't committed the offense. I expressed frustration as this was already taking up a good portion of time but begrudgingly obliged. A day or so later I received an email apologizing for the mix up and saying that "we would like to inform you that your patio looks perfect and we apologize for the error." Now, I've gotten another written "Notice of Lease Violation" but this time directed towards me. Nothing on my patio has changed but now we're being reprimanded for the pre-existing weeds that have been there long before we have. These are small enough so they can only be seen from my apartment (but significant enough to be a pain to remove). Indicating to me they are issuing the citation via the photos I sent them. This is ridiculous because not only do most of my neighbors have these same weeds, I don't have gardening tools, am I really expected to go purchase whatever is necessary to pull them up? Again, they are no where near visible to anyone who passes by unless they're actively looking over our fence. And finally, this is a large complex and there are a ton of these "violations" out in the open. Of the 12 listed on the citation almost every single unit has at least one if not more of these "violations", so us being issued this seems arbitrary at best. In summary, do they have the right to force me to spend money and perform labor on something they neglected before I arrived? Again, multitudes of other neighbors have these weeds but aren't being bothered by management. Edit: Located in California [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 06:39 PM PDT So this is happening to my mother in law. She lives in Los Angeles and is renting out a room in her house that she rents. She rented a room to a woman. Her now ex boy friend would stay with her from time to time. The woman paid in cash and didn't sign a contract. The woman and the ex boy friend got into a fight and the woman moved out but the boy friend refused to leave saying that his girl friend paid for the month so he can stay. Can my MIL force him to leave? Or any legal action be taken? [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 11:58 AM PDT Long story short I got a speeding ticket just before quarantine. I sent in the payment, but it was never received. I have called the town court where it happened (small town, no online services) and it just goes to a message saying that they aren't working and services will be resumed once quarantine is over. Now my license has automatically been suspended for not paying the ticket. Am I just out of luck? Can I really not drive for the foreseeable future? Is there anything I can do? Location info: I am a MA resident, but the speeding ticket happened in NY (not the city) Thank you [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 05:54 PM PDT I live in Pittsburgh, PA in the city where parking is fairly limited. My apartment/townhouse is on a small one-way side street that's a bit hidden, so it's pretty nice. We don't live in a complex at all and different landlords own different buildings on the street, so our neighbor does not have the same as ours. When my girlfriend and I first moved into the apartment we noticed the neighbor had a handicap sign pinned to a lampost and we respected it accordingly, convinced it was legitimate because, who would think otherwise? Over our time living here we have noticed the neighbor is fervently defensive of his spot. That being, to the point of if anyone parks maybe a foot or two too close to the lampost the neighbor or his wife will bang on the offender's door and demand they move their car immediately. My girlfriend and I, after once parking too close too the spot were very understanding and complied. That being said, it appears the "spot" no one else on the street is allowed to park is getting larger and larger every few months, with others living on the street being yelled at more for parking in relative closeness to the lampost that was fine months ago. Please note that in all of these cases, there is still plenty of space for the neighbors to park their car relative to the lampost. I know this definitely sound like I'm punching down here, but we've been threatened with having the police called on us before and I'd rather not take any chances. I do not want to skew any possible advice, but I feel I should also note these neighbors live in squalor. Bags of beer cans are left around their front door and on the street by them, and every other night we can hear them screaming and yelling drunkenly at one another. So, to be honest, this has warped my perception to the point I question if the disabled sign is legitimate. Also note, I'm not questioning if the neighbor himself is disabled... Nothing obvious that I can tell, but I know disability comes in many forms. What brought me to actually post this though was, after another drunken fight overheard from the neighbors last night (nothing distinguishable), I came home from work today to find a very large, spray-painted blue handicapped curb similar to what you would find through the city. That being said... With COVID going on right now, and with the behavior of my neighbors up until this point, I have my doubts on the legitimacy of this spot. I counted the length of the spot, and it came to 16 feet long. Is there some way I can find out if this spot is legitimate, or if my neighbor literally just painted it themselves? I have no desire to confront them myself. This massive spot that's been painted is going to cause me to have to park at the very end of the street if I come home late at all due to the wasted 4-8 feet that's been painted that their car will never fill. tl;dr I think my neighbor painted a handicap spot themselves, is this legal? [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 07:11 PM PDT I intend to consult with a few firms that were recommended by a friend (near Philadelphia) within the next few days, but before I did, I wanted to see if there is grounds for a case here, or just welcome input in general. I am a biomedical engineer, and unfortunately do not have much experience with the legal arena. As a consultant, I travel to various hospitals within my territory to help surgeons use purchased tools and software for neurosurgery. This entails being present in the operating room to setup equipment, as well as directing surgeons and nurses during procedures. Throughout February and until early march, the company I work for had been silent about any precautions or measures to be taken regarding the developing pandemic. I was not until I voiced to my immediate manager that the president of the company sent a company-wide email saying continue business as usual, and wash your hands, as large sites in the county where I live began to shut down in March. After a couple of more weeks, my co-workers and I began to feel downright distressed that we were not being supplied N95 masks from our company, and I myself was denied even a basic surgical mask at a hospital in New Jersey (which had an alarmingly high infection rate) that I traveled to, in order to upgrade some purchased software. This was after lock-down procedures began to be enforced, and this software upgrade was likely not essential to begin with, but my boss did not agree. I was also supporting a surgery at another hospital where the staff in the operating room were wearing PAPR respirators during an ENT procedure (which promoted aerosolized viral particulate matter spreading throughout the room), and, I only had a basic surgical mask to wear, which would not have adequately protected me from a covid-positive patient. At this point, 6 other team members and I drafted an email, which I personally sent to our regional director citing OSHA guidelines, as well as internal safety trainings that specifically stated that it was the Employer's responsibility to provide adequate PPE for job-related responsibilities, among other safety concerns. Prior to this pandemic, we used hospital-supplied masks as part of aseptic technique measures for patient safety. However, now our own safety was at risk, and we needed adequate PPE to continue working during the constantly changing circumstances of this pandemic. We also requested more transparency as to how our company would be handling COVID-19 with regards to sick time and sanitation of our tools, etc. After sending this email, the president of the entire US branch held a mandatory online meeting with ONLY my specific team, and not all US employees (again, lack of transparency) to re-iterate that it was the responsibility of the hospital (not my company) to provide PPE, and if a hospital did not supply us with the same level of PPE as their own staff, we should leave. Furthermore, it was our own responsibility to ensure we do not put ourselves in a jeopardizing position. (just a side note) This put us OR support personnel an ethical dilemma, where hospitals were already lacking adequate stock of PPE, so for every N95 mask I take, that's one less that is available for a nurse desperately in need. This also put us in the awkward position of choosing to abandon surgeons who needed our help for neurosurgical procedures. Fast-forward one month to today - I get a call from my (severely new and unqualified) manager that my position is suddenly being dissolved, and I can either take a demotion with significantly less pay, or I can leave with 6 week's severance. I am the most tenured and experienced person out of all the OR support personnel in my team, and our company is not undergoing any lay-offs. I do not have negative marks on my employment record, I work very hard and am respected by my peers. The VP also mentioned that my position is being dissolved, in part, to re-allocate funds for my manager's salary (who again is severely unqualified and arguably may be threatened by my level of experience). Is any of this grounds for wrongful termination of my position? Do I even have a chance at arguing this, with everything else going on? Any useful input before I actually talk to someone is very welcome and so appreciated! Thank you! [link] [comments] |
| Ghosted by roommate 3 days after I moved in Posted: 11 May 2020 06:14 PM PDT Not sure this is the right thread. Two weeks ago, I moved into a new house with a roommate. The place is awesome - historic house, gorgeous front room and outdoor space, and cheap rent when split between two people. I had also been friends with my roommate for multiple years through work. We have hung out together quite a few times before, and I helped him through some hard times when he got fired recently. He had been in the apartment for several months at this point. However, three days after I moved in, he left the house before I woke up and never came back. He took his phone, his backpack, maybe two other personal items. He left everything else he owns here, including all his clothes, his bed, his books, his toiletries, and his house key (doesn't own a car). He ignored my calls and texts - I was worried he had gotten hurt hiking, as he goes hiking most mornings. I filed a missing persons report pretty quicky because I was worried about him. The police told me that they had been in contact with him, and that he had just said he was safe and well. Then this weekend my gas got shut off. I called all the utilities to find out he set a disconnect order as of a few days ago. I am just so confused. I don't know if he is coming back. The landlord recommend I start looking for a new roommate, but what if he comes back? What do I do with his stuff? I don't have room to keep it here if I get a new roommate, and I don't want to pay for storage for it. We have paid rent through the end of the month, but I can't afford the rent for this place on my own. I don't know what to do, or the legal reprecuasions if I get rid of his things and get a new roommate. Could he come back and try to claim his room? TLDR: my roommate of three days ghosted me. Does he have legal right to the apt if I cannot get ahold of him by the end of the month? Edit - the location bot is mildly frightening and this is my first post. This is from the USA. [link] [comments] |
| MA - family member sold house in a trust without permission of trustees Posted: 11 May 2020 04:48 PM PDT Hi everyone. Without getting into too much detail, my mother inherited a house along with her siblings (house is located in MA, siblings are located all over the country). Her sister sold it today without the approval of all of the siblings. I know we need to get a lawyer, but I have no idea what type of lawyer to get. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 07:30 PM PDT I know it's legal for my employer to open personal mail and packages delivered to me at my office, but are they legally allowed to keep the items in the personal package? I had my boss open a package sent to me while I was out sick and keep the items for the rest of the staff to use. Over the weekend, and off again this week due to overtime, I had another package delivered today (shipped extremely late due to covid-19 delays) and according to the woman at the front desk, my boss again opened my package and took all the items and locked them up in her office before distributing to other staff. The items are also nothing I would be ordering for the community and they were not paid for by my corporate credit card. They were items sent by a friend from overseas to me. I would have had them sent to my home but when they were sent, it was likely that we would have been sheltered in place at our office (I work in healthcare and considered 'essential') [link] [comments] |
| Posted: 11 May 2020 09:38 PM PDT We aren't sure what to do. When confronted over text she said she is paying on it, but the fact that she did this without asking him along with other past actions leaves little reason to believe that. Or it wouldn't have gone into collections if she was paying it down. Bottom line question is, what will happen if he disputes it? If he says it wasn't him that opened the account and authorized his identity to be responsible, which it 100% wasn't? He had NO idea she did this. We suspect that would mean his mother being investigated for fraud of some sort. I know he won't pursue that if that's the case; we'd rather resolve this another way for sure. But please let us know what our options are if anyone can help, and possible outcomes so we can decide how to best proceed with the least hurt to anyone. Thank you in advance. Edit per bot to add this is in Rhode Island, U.S. [link] [comments] |
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